kink
Strap-On Play
Sex play in which one partner wears a harness with a dildo or similar toy and uses it on the other, common in f/f romance and increasingly in m/f and m/m scenes. The wearer can be any gender, and the scene often centers on who is giving versus receiving.
Why readers love it
Readers love the power flip: a character taking on a role that puts them in charge, or a shy one discovering they like it. The vulnerability of being on the receiving end, plus the trust of letting someone else drive, gives these scenes built-in emotional stakes.
Also called
pegging
harness play
strap-on harness
dildo harness
topping with a toy
pegging scene
anal strap-on
Worth knowing: Real-world use calls for plenty of lubrication, communication about pace and anatomy, and a clear safeword, especially since the wearer cannot feel what the toy is doing.
